Life Path Issues and Transitions …

“I’m just so stuck. I feel like a loser...”

"So what do I do now?!...I can't believe I'm in this situation..."

"This is not where I thought I'd be at this stage of my life...I'm a failure ...and don't try to tell me I'm not ...!"

“This really feels like a mid-life crisis.”

“ … all that graduate school – for what? I’m realizing ... I hate my career. I never wanted this.”

People often feel such pressure to succeed, to achieve, to perform, to stay the course, stay on a chosen path. But sometimes the path seems impossible to find. Or the path you've been on feels all wrong. Or – a path chosen long ago ends suddenly, leaving you standing bewildered and alone. You're in limbo, and you want to get somewhere – somewhere you’ve chosen well, that feels real, feels right.

It’s so normal to feel restless, ungrounded, even hapless when facing an important life-transition: the very discomfort of it is an important signal, coming straight from your psyche and nervous system: “We’re not thriving here – we need to discover our true place in the world.”

When you're uncertain, unclear, and uncomfortable, coming to therapy is a first step in orienting from limbo, and finding your true direction. Because you don’t need to go it alone.

With support, limbo becomes transition.

During transition, therapy can help you connect with your inner compass: your true feelings about things (...situations, people, relationships, choices you've made, and choices you face). Not what you think you should feel, not what you wish you could feel, not what it might be convenient to feel — but what you actually do feel.

Often, people are surprised to discover what they really feel about things. Knowing these true feelings is vitalizing; it generally leads people to sensing what they are really drawn to, what they truly want in life. (...And what they don't!)

Options come into focus. Regrets and tangled feelings get their full due. New understanding points you ... in a new direction.

When you know what you really feel, and sense what you really want, you know better what to do.

Then the choices are yours to make.

Questions? Feel free to contact me for a free consultation by phone or HIPAA-secure video platform. Call 917-446-1683, or contact me here.